Why Being Over-Polite Does Not Work

Here is why you need to be cautious with the habit of being over-polite:

If you do not use the right set of words and pass a critical/ negative message in an honest way, there are chances that the other person has not even understood his/ her fault or mistake. Hence, the person at fault will continue to make the same mistake again and again. 

So don't be over-polite use the right set of words when required. You don't have to be rude. But just be honest.

Also, if you are over-polite there are chances that it will backfire. The other person may misinterpret your politeness as your weakness. This may lead to further problems. 

For example:

At work: Your juniors will ...

• Misinterpret your over-polite behavior as your weakness.
• You will be taken for a ride. You will not be a successful boss.
• You will not be counted and people will skip level and talk to your boss instead.

At home: Your folks will...

• Not give enough importance to your advise.
• Obviously take you for granted on almost all occasions(as if you don't exist).
• You will end up "trying" to make everyone happy and in-turn get "nothing".

Be cautious, avoid being over-polite.

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Money Saved Is Money Earned

When I was young one of my mentor told me : Money saved is money earned. Those days I was a college pass out and had just started to earn. Obviously, I was not keen on saving or rather not mature enough to understand what he exactly meant by saying that saving is earning. Now, that time has passed and I have been earning money through my job for almost 12 years, I have finally realized that it was a great thought of wisdom and I should have actually paid lot of attention to it much earlier in my life and focused on saving money and should have been careful with unnecessary spending.

In general most of us are raised in such an environment where we get conditioned to spend money to buy certain product or service. Yes, most of these products and services are required for our day to day life. But our upbringing doesn't teach us to think logically before we spend so with the spending culture and environment we end up purchasing or spending money on things that we actually don't need at all.

For example:

The Shopping Mall Culture:
Encouraging or rather trapping you to spend on things that you don't need, just think how many times do you end up purchasing "something" just because it is available in the shopping mall but originally it was not on your list of things to Purchase.

New Avenues for making you spend unnecessarily:
Agreed that internet, credit card, mobile services are a boon, but if you are not careful with the use of these new avenues you will end up purchasing things that are actually not required. For example, Sing tone or the tone that a caller will hear/ listen when he/ she calls you on your mobile. Think  logically, is it really logical to pay for such a service? coz at the end what really matters is the phone call conversation and not the music tone.

Rather than giving up to these avenues or spending. Let us start and focus on increasing our income by having additional income sources and making investments.

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Peace of Mind

Once Lord Buddha was traveling with a few of his followers.
While they were passing a lake, Buddha told one of his disciples, "I am thirsty. Do get me some water from the lake."

The disciple walked up to the lake. At that moment, a bullock cart started passing by the lake.
As a result, the water became very muddy and turbid.

The disciple thought, "How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?"

So he came back and told Buddha, "The water in there is very muddy. I don't think it is fit to drink."

After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake. The disciple went back, and found that the water was still muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same.

After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.

This time, the disciple found the mud had settled down, and the water was clean and clear. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,
" See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be, and the mud settled down on its own, and you have clear water. Your mind is like that too ! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don't have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless."

Having 'Peace of Mind' is not a difficult task, it is on us to make it an effortless process to keep our mind cool and have a great life ahead.