Never Wrestle With Pigs, You Both Get Dirty And The Pig Likes It

I came across this intersting story on whatsapp...

An elephant took a bath in a river and was walking on the road. When it neared a bridge, it saw a pig fully soaked in mud coming from the opposite direction. The elephant quietly moved to one side, allowed the dirty pig to pass and then continued its onward journey.

The unclean pig later spoke to its friends in arrogance, “See how big I am; even the elephant was afraid of me and moved to one side to let me pass”.

On hearing this, some elephants questioned their friend, the reason for its action. Was it out of fear?

The elephant smiled and replied, “I could have easily crushed the pig under my leg, but I was clean and the pig was very dirty. By crushing it, my leg will become dirty and I wanted to avoid it. Hence, I moved aside.”

*This story reveals*

Realized souls will avoid contact with negativity not out of fear, but out of desire to keep away from impurity though they are strong enough to destroy the impurity.

You need not react to every opinion, every comment, or every situation.Choose your battles wisely... Not everything deserves your time and attention

Now compare this with the day to day situation you face at your workplace. Think about those people who...

• Taunt you for working hard
• Make fun of you or criticize you in public
• Think you get lucky everytime
• Write nasty emails to you for no reason at all
• Are plain jealous just because you are successful
• Only care for visibility and nothing else
• Talk behing your back but not in your face
• Hold grudges and seek revenge

These are the people who divert your attention from your work. If you react or respond to them you lose focus of your work. Hence when you meet such people, do exactly what the elephant did to the Pig. Don't wrestle with them. Choose your battles wisely. Not everything deserves your time and attention. Ignore and move on.

Hope you were able to make a connect. Before we sign off here is another inspirational video, you will definitely want to watch it if you are more than 16 years old...

Saying No Is Like Farting In The Grocery Aisle

Someone asked me How do I become bold, so that others will not take advantage of me anymore?

Short answer to this question is 'Learn the habit of saying No'.

You will not only need to become bold but also become smart and sensitive of human behavior to avoid others taking advantage of yourself. Saying No is first step in the right direction.

For example, if someone asks you “What is your salary?” and you feel uncomfortable to answer this question by saying a direct 'No, I don't want to tell you my salary' then take a deep breath, put a smile on your face and instead of an answer respond with a question “Why do you want to know?” This way you will pass a message that you are not interested in answering this question.

I think there are respectful ways to say no. I read this interesting incident on social media...

"I work in retail while I'm studying, the other day I was working with my assistant state manager we were doing some tidying up and she asked me to hang a string of balloons up quite high.

I just told her I would respectfully do anything else asked of me but they were too high and I wasn't comfortable doing it. She got somebody else to do it. We worked a couple more days together and my my manager received a glowing report once he was back."

Clarity of communication can go a long way. Speaking louder, more concisely and explaining your point of view can really do wonders for getting aggressive people to back off. Your success is dependent in the understanding and mastering of following skills pertaining to human relations:

• Understanding The Human Ego
• Making People Feel Important
• Creating a Good Impression
• Criticizing Without Offending

Not everyone is born with these skills, but the good news is that these skills can be developed over time by continous practice in day to day life interactions.

To conclude I would highly recommend you read these couple of bestsellers to develop these skills…The Art of Dealing with People and Questions Are the Answers

Remember Assertiveness is not anger. Decisiveness is not anger. Saying no is like farting in the grocery aisle. Do it quickly, respectfully and sparingly and you wont offend anybody.

How Much Do Amazon Flipkart Software Engineers Earn In India After 4-5 Years?

I first posted this as an answer on Quora, here is the link How-much-do-Amazon-Flipkart-software-engineers-earn-in-India-after-4-5-years. I am posting it here for the benefit of those who have not read it on Quora ...

First hand information received from someone working at Amazon India:

Fresher's 12 lakhs fixed + 3 lakhs stocks and 3 lakhs joining bonus

Senior SDE 22 lakhs fixed

SDE -iii 35 lakhs fixed + stocks

And so on an so forth each level has 10 lakhs delta

So principle SDEs get fixed of 60 lakhs + stocks

In addition here are some numbers from Glassdoor. This is not exactly for 4–5 years of experience but in general the various levels mentioned will give you a good idea.

Amazon

And

Flipkart

I hope this helps. I also know someone with 2+ years of experience and a MS from US who was offered $125K per annum from Amazon at Seattle. So yeah if you are trying to compare your salary of a service based software/ IT company to that of a product based software company then you know the answer now.

If you are looking for some tips on salary negotiation, read 5 Secrets Of Salary Negotiations